I'm a romantic at heart.
Not M&B stuff though. Romance means adventure. Sea Spray, Unexplored lands, hidden treasure and dragons to slay. That's true romance. Damsels in distress are just the side dishes, if you will. Perks of the job, and all that.
Having said that however, there is a place in this large heart of mine for the softer emotion. I have been in love. I am in love as of this moment. But I don't believe in love at first sight. Not any more at least.
I believe in attraction. At first sight, definitely. You can be physically attracted to a person, and that makes you see stars and makes you feel like a little kid who first sees a cotton candy cart. But that isn't really love. Love is about getting to know someone so well that you are able to read her every emotion, her every whim. You needn't cater to these whims, but anticipating them helps.
As a consequence of no love at first sight, there are no soulmates. Since love is something that develops, excruciatingly, over time, it stands to reason that every relationship (or those based in love) should be an effort, a whole phantasm of hard work, planning and mind reading.
Now this is eye-opening. Most people expect relationships to go well, without realising that you need to work hard at it. Some days you need to work really hard. And sometimes you fight and scream and say nasty things. But you work at it, and you work at it. And finally like a sculpture emerging from a block of granite, you realise that you actually are soulmates.
Its hard back breaking work to keep your relationship healthy, but if effort doesn't go into it, it stagnates. And insead of Venus di Milo, you end up with a misshapen rock with two stumps. That's not fun. And now I'm sounding like one of those Agony Aunts you see on Page 14 of the newspaper, who gets letters from people with names like Desperate Diva or Harried Housewife.
I'd better sign off before Amorous Amy gets ideas and starts emailing me!
Not M&B stuff though. Romance means adventure. Sea Spray, Unexplored lands, hidden treasure and dragons to slay. That's true romance. Damsels in distress are just the side dishes, if you will. Perks of the job, and all that.
Having said that however
I believe in attraction. At first sight, definitely. You can be physically attracted to a person, and that makes you see stars and makes you feel like a little kid who first sees a cotton candy cart. But that isn't really love. Love is about getting to know someone so well that you are able to read her every emotion, her every whim. You needn't cater to these whims, but anticipating them helps.
As a consequence of no love at first sight, there are no soulmates. Since love is something that develops, excruciatingly, over time, it stands to reason that every relationship (or those based in love) should be an effort, a whole phantasm of hard work, planning and mind reading.
Now this is eye-opening. Most people expect relationships to go well, without realising that you need to work hard at it. Some days you need to work really hard. And sometimes you fight and scream and say nasty things. But you work at it, and you work at it. And finally like a sculpture emerging from a block of granite, you realise that you actually are soulmates.
Its hard back breaking work to keep your relationship healthy, but if effort doesn't go into it, it stagnates. And insead of Venus di Milo, you end up with a misshapen rock with two stumps. That's not fun. And now I'm sounding like one of those Agony Aunts you see on Page 14 of the newspaper, who gets letters from people with names like Desperate Diva or Harried Housewife.
I'd better sign off before Amorous Amy gets ideas and starts emailing me!
4 comments:
Love it master!..You said it all
Dear Agony Uncle,
Thank you for the mini revelation about not relationships, but a window into that romantic heart of yours.
How in the name of heaven do I put a link to your blog in my blog?
F1 (help)! F1!
U know .. ive always told u this, but that 25 yr old brain of urs has more sense than most men regardless of whether they're older or younger!!
Very well said! Its reflects my mind in more ways than one, realities that I have only recently realised..if you really wana see hw stupid luv cn make sme one who isnt in senses.. ur welcome 2 visit my blog.. iv stopped updating it wid weird stuff these days though! adios! :)
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